11 May When Love Isn’t Enough
Ah yes, That one holy grail that we all want, need and yearn for. Some may not think so but really, whether its man or a woman, we all want to be loved. Its nice to be nurtured and loved. Its energy, its emotion, its feeling, its your soul that burns. Its that one element in life that keeps us going. But interestingly enough for many, its not just love that keeps two flames burning. A topic of conversation that struck a cord with a few ladies at lunch one day. Lady A, who to everyone seemed to have it all, made quite the statement when all she did was complain about the things her husband didn’t do, cant do and doesn’t understand to do. Looking frustrated she proclaimed ‘ I love my husband but sometimes love isn’t enough’. Perplexed and shocked her friends asked her to elaborate. She went on to speak of the lack of communication, the frustration of not understanding, the silly arguments and the friction of day to day life that has been plaguing her relationship for some time. She began to explain that love is the main fragment of a union but there are other elements that need to fit. Integrity, honesty, compassion, faith, compromise, priority, support and respect. There are many elements that make a relationship work not just Love. These things sit in the umbrella of love. Love on its own isn’t enough and doesn’t get your through if you don’t have all those other elements in check. Lady A had a point and made us all think. Maybe we had watched too many movies and believed too much in the fairytale dream. Relationships are a two way street and it is work. When you love you want it to work and you do what it takes. Wow. Lady A had taught us a thing or two about what it was like. Singletons don’t know until they are there so to hear it from someone who has ‘the dream married life’ really got everyone at the table thinking. Love does conquer all but love isn’t enough. Feelings are one thing but its what you do and how you are to your partner is another. How you journey together and navigate the relationship is important. Love grows and changes from people to people. Its not like the movies. As lovely romantic movies are it isn’t a true reflection of life out there and what two people go through. Lady A left us with an interesting thought. Love sometimes isn’t enough. Not if all the other factors aren’t in the mix. Loving is such a big think and we use all our energy and all our strength. All those fragments have to be aligned. Without them is it really love?