09 Apr Are Shoes Our Therapy?
When our love life goes belly up and we are all filled with emotion, confusion and having to start all over again what is the one thing that most women do. Shopping. Its the Euphoric feel, that release and the freedom that allows the mind and heart to feel good instead of feeling pain. It was a discussion that came up over coffee over the weekend with a friend who found herself alone eating Uber eats for one when her boyfriend of 3 years suddenly woke up, packed up and left. Shattered, crying and unable to understand she managed to get herself out of the house once the inevitable set in. I must admire her. Her gusto to go on and get on with it. It also helps when your new neighbour is an Italian from Milan who looks like something out of Vogue. ( Boyfriend…..What boyfriend?) On her first day as a single woman she got herself to town and did what felt good. Shoe shop. What is it about shoes that gets the endorphin rush happening? It is the act of improving ones mood or disposition. It is a short term feeling. Something designed to give us the quick fix in times of stress. When we try on new shoes and buy them it allows us to re confirm that we still look good, we are still wonderful and loving and we can walk on and carry ourselves as women. Independent and strong. It is a form of self confidence and fulfilment. Even the act of trying on and window shopping can add to that excitement as it prepares you for purchase. Its the act of knowing and having. Shoe therapy is very real (retail therapy). Adding something new to your collection isn’t such a bad idea when you do it in moderation. After all, Why shouldn’t you feel good? Out with the old an in with the new is about accepting change, going with the flow. That includes our wardrobes. We need shoes to walk and in some cases our shoes do the subtle talking too. Shoe therapy does wonders to a woman after love comes crashing down. She can walk tall, stand proud, look fabulous and remember that she is love and worth it. May that reminder never waiver. If the shoe fits wear it.