16 Nov Emotionally Inept Men
My dearest Boy BFF, let’s call him Sanchez, was chatting at the dinner table one evening and commented that his intelligent, funny and down to earth mates had everything going for them but they are, as he calls them ‘Emotionally retarded’ when it came to women. “How so?” I asked. He explained that there were a couple of factors as to why but the fundamental one was fear. Fear of opening up ( especially after a not so great experience in the past), trusting a women and being taken advantage of not just emotionally but financially too.(Me thinks the song Golddigger from Kayne West has been playing in their sports cars for too long) Because of this it makes them Inept at the whole approach to courting/dating. Being unable to understand what makes a woman tick, what she wants and what she desires. One actually proclaimed ‘treat them mean keep them keen’…Seriously? not sure how this guy still thinks that works, but it could explain why he is still single. Perhaps he could benefit from some emotional development. Some pointers from Mr Sanchez may be required. This made me think. Do men fear the same things we do when it comes to love? As women, we fear taking that next step, in particular after you have been shattered and scarred in love. The opening of Pandora’s box, and let’s face it being taken for a ride after just re learning how to trust again.
Do men need to learn to trust as well?
Put it bluntly Yes. Maybe men and women can have the same fears. They probably don’t talk about it like we do. But you have to start somewhere. You may end up letting something that could be potentially great slip away. But I think Sanchez’s friends should maybe invest a little more in women as they do in their cars. They may surprise themselves and see how great letting go of fear can be on their soul and them as beings. Behind every great man is a great woman as the saying goes. If they open their eye they might see it. Every king has a Queen. After all, can a car give you what a woman can? Hell No.